Your saying, “What he does, how he fares, how he feels when we ask him for the money back is NOT my business,” hit deep. They remind me I can only own my feelings, not others’. Like you, I’ve obsessed over others’ reactions to my words, as if they’re my responsibility. I’m learning to let them own their feelings, just as I’m learning to own mine.
Your courage in modeling growth by teaching him about consequences is such a loving act. He may not see it now, but one day he’ll value your strength. I do! :0)
Very sorry this happened to your son. My guess is he will be fine in the job market. We allnhave gave Scott a ride to work for the last 8 years. He has 6 DUI felonies. He wore an ankle bracelet for 2 years. He fell into depression and alcoholis after his wife passed from cancer. Scott will get his license back next year after he is finished with probation he has been doing great. My team leader is missing a finger. He was in a terrible accident that almost took his life along with the other in the crash. He was convicted of man slaughter. He did time in prison but was allowed work release. I am not sure how you will handle the repayment. Some things are repaind in differnt ways. Many times we don't get everything back. I hope things work out dor the best for you.
Carolina, your vulnerability truly touched me.
Your saying, “What he does, how he fares, how he feels when we ask him for the money back is NOT my business,” hit deep. They remind me I can only own my feelings, not others’. Like you, I’ve obsessed over others’ reactions to my words, as if they’re my responsibility. I’m learning to let them own their feelings, just as I’m learning to own mine.
Your courage in modeling growth by teaching him about consequences is such a loving act. He may not see it now, but one day he’ll value your strength. I do! :0)
Hugs, Carolina
Thank you for your encouraging words, Russell. And the hugs! Hugs to you too!
Very sorry this happened to your son. My guess is he will be fine in the job market. We allnhave gave Scott a ride to work for the last 8 years. He has 6 DUI felonies. He wore an ankle bracelet for 2 years. He fell into depression and alcoholis after his wife passed from cancer. Scott will get his license back next year after he is finished with probation he has been doing great. My team leader is missing a finger. He was in a terrible accident that almost took his life along with the other in the crash. He was convicted of man slaughter. He did time in prison but was allowed work release. I am not sure how you will handle the repayment. Some things are repaind in differnt ways. Many times we don't get everything back. I hope things work out dor the best for you.
Thank you, Al. Your comment shows me, once again, that my son’s experience isn’t unique and certainly not the end of the world.
Im textung on my phone so sorry about the terrible editing...🤦
No apologies needed 🙂